throughout their first few years of life…and the 4-month sleep regression often takes parents by storm. For a lot of parents, this sleep regression catches them off guard, and they’re left wondering what happened to their once sweet sleeper.
Regardless of whether you were prepared for the 4-month sleep regression or not, all babies will go through this. And how it impacts their sleep depends entirely
on each baby.
When I had my second son, the 4-month sleep regression hit us hard. He went from sleeping long stretches at a time to having trouble simply falling asleep. What once worked for us to get him to sleep well no longer did, and it was a difficult experience.
If your child is already a good sleeper, a regression can be just as hard as it is for those who don’t have good sleepers – sleep regressions don’t discriminate! But the main question I receive from many parents (when they’re up multiple times throughout the night) is, “How do we survive this?!”
What’s going on during the 4-month sleep regression?
When babies are born, their circadian rhythms are immature – instead of their sleep cycles being governed by the natural link to the 24-hour clock, a baby’s sleep is split up into sleep
and awake
periods.
Additionally, their sleep cycles look different than an adult’s. As a newborn, sleep cycles are split in half – deep sleep and active sleep. When those sleep cycles mature around the 16-week mark, they begin to look more like our sleep cycles with various REM and NREM stages which will mean that they will spend more time in light sleep.
So instead of moving from deep sleep
to active sleep, babies will cycle through more stages, and often will wake during one of those transitions.
What can make this sleep regression more challenging is that many babies will wake more overnight, and in an attempt to do whatever it takes to get their babies back to sleep, parents will resort to whatever
works – rocking their baby to sleep, feeding them to sleep, or constantly replacing their pacifier.
And if these things happen without much disturbance to the child’s or parent’s sleep, that’s perfectly fine. But in many cases, habits form and children become used to getting fed multiple times throughout the night or having mom or dad rock them back to sleep.
Soon enough, parents will find that their baby now wants to be rocked, fed, or what have you, at the onset of sleep as well.
And when the 4-month regression passes, those habits stay, resulting in more night wakes or assistance needed to fall asleep.
So what’s an exhausted parent to do?
Understand what’s happening developmentally.
The most important thing to remember is that this is a natural part of your child’s development – it’s normal and temporary. Your child is growing and their brains and bodies are developing!
When you understand this fact, it can help you get through the exhaustion that comes along with the regression.
Also, instead of focusing on band aid solutions or products that promise to solve all of your child’s sleep struggles, try this:
- Continue to follow safe sleep
recommendations. Now isn’t the time to add items to your child’s crib in the hopes that they’ll sleep better. In fact, doing so could pose a safety hazard.
- Transition to a sleep sack! Around this age, we want to move away from the swaddle, and transitioning to a sleep sack can help ensure they stay warm while sleeping and serve as a great sleep association.
- Whenever you’re working on improving your child’s sleep, focus on the root issue and make a plan to help them. If you need help with this, schedule a call with me
– that’s what I’m here for!
Since circadian rhythms are strongly affected by the natural 24-hour clock, if you have not done so already, it is time to start following a schedule that respects that relationship. This means that you can wake your baby up in the morning between 6-7 a.m., ensure they nap according to appropriate wake windows, and offer an early bedtime. It’s also a great time to create a consistent and conducive sleep space for your little one.
Be mindful of how much your child is eating.
If your child is suddenly waking more throughout the night and feeding, it’s important to take a look at how much they’re eating throughout the day and how well they’re feeding. Since your baby is becoming more aware around this age, it’s not uncommon for babies to become more distracted…especially when they’re eating!
Consult with your pediatrician if you have any questions about how much your child should be eating each day. If you feel that your child isn’t getting full feeds during the day, the answer might not be to feed more at night. Instead, look for ways to ensure your baby isn’t just snacking when they nurse or bottle feed.
If your baby is falling asleep while feeding, for instance, you can try to tickle their toes, undress them, or stroke their face. If they’re simply a distracted eater, you can try feeding them in a quiet space where there’s less noise and activity.
Start gently and slowly encouraging independent sleep.
You don't have to change your baby's sleep routine right away, but you can begin gently and slowly encouraging independent sleep. If you've been putting your baby down for naps and nighttime sleep the same way every day, try to put them down in their crib while awake – even just once a day!
It might not work the first (or second or third) time you do it, but slowly, they’ll get used to falling asleep while they’re in their crib, and it will help them become more comfortable and confident drifting off to sleep in this way.
By changing these small things – eliminating rocking or feeding to sleep – you'll help make sure that no matter how many times your bundle of joy wakes up during the turbulent months ahead, eventually they will learn that they can put themselves back to sleep throughout the night.
If your baby has hit a rough patch in terms of sleeping, don't worry! This stage will pass and your little one will settle into a routine again soon enough. In the meantime, remember that the 4-month sleep regression is temporary and you will get through it.
If you feel like the 4-month sleep regression put a hiccup in your child’s sleep and they never recovered, let’s make a plan of action together!
Reach out to me
today to help your child get back on track!