By lbenjell
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January 23, 2023
The only constant about baby sleep is that there is no constant. Am I right? Just when you feel like you have a rhythm, you figured out what your baby needs and you can rely on somewhat of a schedule, BAM! things change. In comes a nap transition and with it comes changing schedules, an adjustment period, some over tiredness and maybe even some early morning wakes. This blog post is one of four in a series of posts delving into the world of nap transitions. To read more about the 2-1 transition, you can click here . Naps – you either love them or hate them. For some parents, their child’s nap is a time for them to get things done, like cleaning, working, or catching some sleep for themselves! For others, nap time is an inconvenience…it requires you to stop what you’re doing, head home, and ensure your child gets their needed sleep. I definitely was not in the category that viewed naps as an inconvenience. In fact, when my son dropped his naps, I cried. Real tears. But I understand that for some families, the 1-0 nap transition is an exciting time, as you no longer have to stop in the middle of the day to get your little one down for a nap. And I also understand that, for other families, they don’t have a say when their child transitions away from naps, as their daycare may mandate naps end by a certain age. Regardless of your stance, the 1-0 nap transition is one that I would caution anyone to rush toward. Children still need sleep in the day, and dropping naps too soon could wreak havoc on overnight sleep, their behavior, or their ability to focus. But when your child is showing you signs that they’re ready, here are some tips to help make this transition an easy one. The Signs If you think your child is ready to drop all of their naps, I first encourage you to wait. It’s not uncommon for toddlers to protest naps – I mean, who wants to stop playing in the middle of the day to sleep?! (Besides parents, sometimes, of course.) Nap protests aren’t always a sign that your child is ready to drop all of their naps permanently, and doing so could backfire. So before diving in head first and saying goodbye to naptime, really tune in to your child and their sleep habits to determine if they’re ready. While all children will be ready to drop their naps at their own time, here are a few signs your child may be ready: Your baby is in the vicinity of 3 years of age. I encourage parents to hold on to the nap as long as possible – even after 3 years old! – but I have seen some children ready to drop their nap at 2.5 years of age. The nap is interfering with bedtime. Maybe your child wakes from their nap later in the day, which pushes bedtime later into the evening. Or maybe your child simply isn’t tired when bedtime rolls around, and they take hours to fall asleep. In some cases, like with my son, you may notice long periods of wakefulness in the middle of the night. Your child may not be crying or fussing, just content in their crib, but awake for hours. Your child resists their naptime. This isn’t always a reliable sign, though, as it’s not uncommon for toddlers to want to play and stay awake. You’ll want to look at how their nap is interfering with their bedtime and behavior, and take it from there. When you have identified that your child is in fact ready to drop all naps and they’re not just in a little strike or regression, then it’s time to make changes to their schedule. The Transition The transition from 1 to 0 naps isn’t one that needs to be rushed. In fact, it could take weeks and weeks to nail this transition. For some kiddos, staying awake all day is a hard task. And even if they don’t need the nap, they may end up falling asleep at 5 p.m. because they’re exhausted by that time. Or, you’ll find your little one sleeping on the couch after falling asleep at 4 p.m. while watching TV. So instead of dropping the nap cold turkey, I would suggest to first shorten the nap by 15 minutes every few days. Then evaluate: How does that impact bedtime? Does it get better? If so, great! That may be all that your child needs right now. If cutting the nap by 15 minutes doesn’t improve bedtime, we’ll cut it by another 15 minutes in a few days. And then we’ll evaluate again. By the time you reach a 45-minute nap, you can start to look at other solutions. Maybe today your child naps, but tomorrow they don’t. On the days they don’t nap, you can bring bedtime up earlier to make sure your child is able to survive the day with no daytime sleep. This method worked for my son when he was having long wakes each night. A word of caution: When you make the nap optional, it can make it more difficult to navigate the days when nap isn’t optional. Having a plan of action and communicating with your child what the expectations are can help. Secrets of the No-Nap Schedule When you finally bid farewell to your child’s naps, I recommend still creating an hour of quiet time in the day. Having a period of down time can help your child make it through the day and it also helps prevent overstimulation. For quiet time, you want to offer activities that aren’t too taxing. I like to make a box that’s reserved only for quiet time – you can place books, puzzles, or other quiet activities inside that your little one does only during that time period each day. Some kiddos will fall asleep during quiet time, and that’s okay. Let them take a short nap, then wake them up and go on with the rest of the day. For more tips on implementing quiet time successfully, check out this blog ! If the thought of making this transition alone is overwhelming, I invite you to schedule a 20-minute Discovery Call with me. During our call, we can chat about your child’s current sleep situation, what’s causing the overwhelm, and how I can support you through the process. Making changes in your child’s routine and sleep habits is never easy. But together, we can ensure everyone in your house is getting the sleep they need to be the most confident, well-rested version of themselves possible. I can’t wait to chat more with you!