A few tips to help spread out your baby’s sleep periods.
Written by Lamis Benjelloun
“If my baby can sleep for so long during the day, why are they up every hour at night?” said every new mom on the planet. I know I did! And when he did sleep for long stretches during the day, I would give the “death stare” to anyone who dared make a peep around the house.
What is Day/Night Confusion?
Your baby is sleeping better during the day than they are at night because they are experiencing Day/Night Confusion. Babies are born with immature Circadian Rhythms and so their days are not governed by the 24 hour clock that runs our system. Instead, their days are just split up into “awake” periods and “sleeping” periods. They have also spent the last 9 months lulled to sleep in the womb by mommy’s motions and are therefore accustomed to sleeping when mom is active (ie during the day). The bad news is that there is nothing you can do to immediately fix it. The good news is that it tends to dissipate by the 3-month mark. In the meantime, there are things you can do to even out the time baby spends awake vs. the time they spend asleep.
Never wake a sleeping baby?
Every mom has heard this and has definitely felt this way: My baby is finally down for a nap, I will not wake them up no matter how long they sleep. And I’m with you, let babes lie, but if that nap is so long that it messes up the rest of the day’s schedule, do wake them up. As a rule of thumb, if a nap is over two hours long at that age, it’s too long.
Expose them to sunlight
You will never hear me say let your baby nap in a lit up environment during the day so they can differentiate day from night because that just won’t work: all it will do is make it harder for your baby to fall asleep (you can find more info on naps here ). However, do expose them to sunlight when they are awake as this will help the development of their circadian rhythms. Take them for a walk outside when they wake up, weather permitting, or have them play in a particularly sunny part of the house.
Boring nights
Treat all middle of the night wakings as such: keep lights low and interactions even lower. You can set the tone from the beginning that nights are for sleep and days are for fun. This will also help in setting up their Circadian Rhythms.
Short awake window
Newborns have a very small capacity to stay awake. And while mama is super excited when baby is up because its kind of fun to cuddle and play with your baby, keep that window very short at first. Aim to have them in bed at most 60 minutes after they wake up. By respecting their maximal capacity to stay up, you are making sure that they are always well rested which makes their sleep periods longer, deeper and more restorative.
So while we there is no real magic trick that will flip baby’s days and nights and help them sleep better at night, we can find ways to survive this period by attempting to even out their sleep periods during our 24 hour day.
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