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Why Are We Up So Early?

lbenjell • Jul 06, 2021

Troubleshooting those early morning wake ups

Written by: Lamis Benjelloun

Any mama out there can tell you that she can get more done before 9 am than anyone else can in a whole day.  Babies wake up so early and cause us to start our days much earlier than we used to pre-kids.  And what we wouldn’t do for just another 30 minutes of sleep!

Children’s sleep is influenced by their circadian rhythms, which are in turn influenced by light and darkness (ie sunrise and sunset).  This means that a normal wake up for children is usually between 6 and 8 am.  Yikes, that is super early!  But some mamas have kiddos that wake up even before that, and in my books as a sleep consultant, any wake up prior to 6 am is considered an early wake.  And that is something we can work on to improve, should you want to.

Ok so your child is waking up at 5:30 am on the dot and you have tried everything and its not working, what can you do?  You can begin by asking yourself the following questions (full disclosure, these are the exact questions I ask the families I work with when working to fix early wake ups) :

Lights and sounds

This is probably the first place I check. Does anything change in your child’s sleep environment in the early hours of the day? Neighbors waking up? Birds chirping outside? Cars on the move? Small light ray sneaking into the room in between the curtain and the window?

Any of these can wake your baby up and because the drive to sleep is so low at that point and “it looks to them” that its daytime (not as dark as middle of the night) they assume that it’s Ok to wake up then.

The next time your baby wakes up really early, do a quick scan of their room and see if any external sounds or lights are coming in.

Naps and Bedtime (Part one)

Next, let’s talk about your child’s schedule.  Are they taking the right number of naps?  Are the naps happening at the time they most need them? Are they long enough to satisfy their daytime sleep needs?  Is that last wake window in line with what they can tolerate so that bedtime is age appropriate? 

If you haven’t guessed where I’m going with this, I’m trying to figure out if your baby is overtired.  And this is probably the most common reason for early wake ups and perhaps the one thing that most parents I speak with initially disagree with.  The truth is most babies wake up early because they are overtired and need more sleep.  So move  bedtime earlier for like 5 or 6 days, you will see that morning wake up getting later.

Naps and bedtime (Part two)

There is a flipside to this.  Say your child has a great sleep foundation, has an appropriate nap schedule, satisfies their daytime sleep needs and goes to bed early, only to wake up 11-12 hours after bedtime at 5:30 am.  In this case, your baby could use a slight schedule revision in order to slide wake up time a little later.

Wet diapers/bowel movement

Is your baby waking up because they are uncomfortable in a dirty diaper?  Those early morning poos can be rough to handle.  Attempt to load your kiddos on their fruits and veggies earlier rather than later in the day in order to change their “bathroom break”.

Hunger

Is your baby waking up because they are hungry? Make sure your baby has a proper dinner before going to bed so that they can sleep through with no problem.

What they look forward to when they wake up

And last but not least, what is your baby looking forward to when they wake up in the morning?  Do they get to come into your bed? Nurse? Have a bottle? Watch TV while you catch a few minutes of extra sleep?  Believe it or not, these are all things that can get your child excited at the prospect of waking up in the morning so as soon as they can, they will fully wake up!  Many years ago, my son was waking up earlier than I liked so I told him he can watch TV in the morning.  What started off as a 7 am wake up, over the days, got earlier and earlier until we were up before 6 am to watch TV.  When I realized what was happening, we changed our morning routine and eventually came back to where we started.

What time is your child waking up in the morning?  If it is too early, go through the questions to find the culprit and let me know what worked!

By lbenjell 20 May, 2024
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By lbenjell 24 Apr, 2024
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By lbenjell 06 Jun, 2023
You are sitting peacefully watching a movie when you hear your little one scream. It’s the middle of the night and you are convinced they are having a nightmare. But when you go check, your baby is unconsolable. It is as if they are not recognizing your presence. So was it a night mare or something else? In most cases, when sleep is disturbed, our babes are most likely having a nightmare. But sometimes, it turns out to be a night terror instead. So what’s the difference between the two and how can we help our little ones get through each one. What is a nightmare? A nightmare is a bad dream that can cause the person experiencing it fright or distress. Children generally start having nightmares between the ages of 2 and 3 years but some start as early as 2 years old. Nightmares generally happen in the REM stages of sleep or in other words in the later part of the night. A child having a nightmare can wake up and remember the content of the dream and even feel distressed as a result. What triggers a nightmare? Nightmares can be triggered by a number of things. It can be something that they are worried about, something they heard a story about or even something they watched on TV. That is why I always ask parents to do a quick audit of who their little one is spending time with and what they are watching. Something that an older cousin or sibling said in passing can really stay with the little ones. How can I help my child after a nightmare? Immediately after the episode (or in the middle of the night) soothe and comfort your baby and help them go back to sleep — however that may look like for your family. Once the initial shock/fear has passed, spend time the next day talking to your little one about the dream. Was it scary? how did it make them feel? Make sure you validate those feelings as they are very real to them but also put them in context: dreams are works of our imaginary and we can retell the narrative differently. Is there a way to turn the monster into something funny? Can the bad story in the dream have a happy ending? Help them focus on their ability to imagine good things instead of dwelling on the scary aspect of the dream. What is a night terror? Similar to a nightmare, a Night terror is a parasomnia that can disturb our kiddo’s sleep. This one happens in the deep NREM portion of sleep which means earlier in the night. A child experiencing a night terror may sleep walk or scream but may not recognize your efforts to soothe them or calm them down. The next day, your little one will have absolutely no recollection of the episode. What triggers night terrors? Night terrors can be hereditary so if someone in your family has experience with them, it might explain why your little one is having them. But night terrors can also be caused by overtiredness so offering more sleep can help reduce their frequency. How can I help my child through or after a night terror? In these cases, it is best to accompany your baby in their terror and keep them safe, without waking them. The episode will ride out and they will be out of it in a few minutes. Chatting about it the next day is probably not going to help as this is not something that they will be able to recall. Has your child experienced night terrors? I would love to hear more.
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