Separating fact from fiction in the conversation about infant reflux
Written by: Jida Choura, the Reflux Mamma
Doesn’t it just sting, when someone says “its just colic”, or “all babies cry”. It is “just” the first 3 months and then babies grow out of “It”. The looks of judgment when you are at the clinic, and the “is this your first baby?” questions are just the worst. And the one sentence that used to personally hurt me was “oh you just have a grumpy baby, he’s just whiny.”
I am here to tell you there is no such thing as a grumpy baby.
These answers are actually said to you because the person saying them does not want to say: “ we do not actually know what is wrong with your baby”. They are words thrown around from friends; family members and even health professionals making mothers feel helpless, inadequate and delusional. I know, I was exactly where you were.
As a baby reflux consultant I don’t accept colic as a diagnosis. Colic’s actual definition is: “ a baby crying for 3 hours everyday, or for 3 hours a day 3 times a week for longer than 3 weeks”. If this describes your baby, I can tell you with utmost certainty THIS IS NOT NORMAL and it is NOT OKAY.
When a baby is deemed a colicky baby, this should be a mother’s queue to investigate more. It means something else is going on with the baby and baby is trying to communicate that they are very uncomfortable. There is always a cause for a baby’s discomfort.
So the next time someone accuses your baby of being a colicky baby and tells you its just “gas”. I want you to ask yourself: WHY? If they tell you your baby is colicky because they have reflux? I want you to ask WHY? Only when we find the root cause of your baby’s discomfort can we actually resolve it. 40% of babies born actually suffer from reflux , and unfortunately the solution given to mothers is wait or medicate.
You are told to wait for baby to grow out of it. Although there is no guarantee that they will, it all depends on what is actually going on; some kids suffer with reflux until age of 3.
Also, how is spending the first couple of years of your baby’s life wishing they would just grow while watching them suffer a solution?
The other option given is: medicate. Without identifying what the root cause behind the baby’s reflux is. Medication 95% of the times is unnecessary and does not actually resolve reflux. Only in very rare cases is it actually needed, and you must know that there are certain tests that need to be done before prescribing medication to make sure it is the necessary course of action.
Unfortunately, this is not what is actually happening. Medication is prescribed as an automatic response to any baby suffering with reflux, and this is something I urge mothers to be very aware of. Reflux medication prescribed to babies can cause side effects and is not easy weaning off due to the physiological tampering it does to a baby’s body.
As a mother of a child, that suffered with reflux for 9 months, and as the first certified baby reflux consultant in the middle east. I want you to know that the majority of the times reflux is completely resolvable without medication. Yes, you read that right. Reflux can be resolved completely . There is always a solution.
So first off lets identify what reflux actually is? Reflux is an involuntary action that the stomach does to protect the digestive system. It is the first line of defense for the digestive system to let whatever might cause the body discomfort out.
There is always, always a cause for it. It is not something your baby just has to live with. Reflux does not necessarily mean throw up. Some babies spit up, others projectile vomit across the room (and this is when reflux is called GERD), and sometimes it involves zero spit up which is known as silent reflux. This is when the milk mixes with stomach acid and goes back up to the esophagus reaching the throat or mouth and then goes back down burning the esophagus on both ways.
Because reflux is a symptom, it can differ from baby to baby completely. For example, some babies can lose weight, spit up and not sleep. Others might sleep great, no spit up and be gaining weight but they whine all day, have painful gas and do not want to be put down. Both babies can be suffering from reflux.
Think of reflux as one of the symptoms of flu, the flu is the cause behind the cough or the temperature or the body aches. The body ache in itself is not a disease nor is it a cause. This is really important when trying to figure out what is causing your baby’s discomfort, as a baby reflux consultant I do not just look at your child’s sleep, weight, spit up and cries. I look at over 80 symptoms (some digestive, respiratory, skin related, behavior related, and others sleep related) that can accompany reflux and only then am I able to know the root cause behind your baby’s reflux.
There are many reasons for reflux, some happen during pregnancy, during delivery and others during the fourth trimester. The most common reasons are:
During pregnancy
:
Baby’s position in Utero
Breech baby
Baby’s head position for birth
Mom’s gut health during pregnancy
Mom taking antibiotics during pregnancy
Gestational diabetes
Folic acid supplementation
Multiple births
During delivery:
Induction
C-section (planned or emergency)
Use of forceps or vaccum
Antibiotics during delivery
During fourth trimester
:
Allergy/intolerance from moms food if baby is breastfed
Allergy/intolerance from formula milk
Baby’s gut health
Difficulties latching
Antibiotics given to baby
Tongue tie, lip tie, buckle tie
Cleft lip and high palate
Reflux medications
Tube feeding
Immature digestion
So the next time someone says your baby has reflux and ends there. Or your baby is a “colicky” baby and ends there. Do not accept that. You are your baby’s expert. If you feel your baby is more uncomfortable than they should be, trust your gut. Waiting is not a solution and is not your only option. Holding your baby up for 30 min after every feed might help sometimes but will not resolve the unique cause of your baby’s reflux. Sleeping at an angle will not resolve your baby’s reflux, medicating 95% of the time is unnecessary and will not resolve your baby’s reflux.
Only when realizing what the cause is can you actually resolve it and get your baby reflux free. So I would like to ask you as a mother to trust yourself, trust that you know your baby best and believe me when I tell you the days do not have to be this hard, because Reflux is not a disease .
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