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Are you Team Pacifier?

lbenjell • Jun 08, 2022
Pacifiers (pacis, dummies, binkies or whatever you may call them) may be your best friend or worst enemy depending on the season you are going through. It feels like it might be your only chance to go to sleep or the reason you are up all night to pop it back in as it pops out of your babe’s mouth like a jack in the box. So the question is then, should you offer your baby a pacifier to begin with? As with many things I present on this blog platform, the answer really depends on you and your baby. If offering a paci is important to you, do it. If not, then there is no need. And your baby will also have an opinion regarding the topic so listen to them as well. Having said that, here are a few points to consider when making the choice.



What are the benefits of pacifiers?

Babies are born with a sucking need. Most of that is satisfied by breastfeeding or bottle feeding but for some babies, they need to continue sucking beyond that. The pacifier can be very handy in this situation as it can help satisfy the extra need for sucking and we call this non-nutritive sucking.

This non-nutritive sucking in turn helps babies recall or trigger their calming reflex. This reflex is helpful in soothing a particularly fussy baby. If your babe experiences fussy periods in the day (example purple crying period), try offering them a pacifier to help them find some calm.

In addition, research has shown that the use of a pacifier at the onset of sleep is a protective measure agains SIDS. This means that it can reduce the incidence of SIDS, even if the pacifier is not propped back in in the middle of the night.



What Pitfalls should I be on the lookout for?

While the pacifier has many advantages, it also has some pitfalls that you should be aware of. For starters, if baby comes to rely on it to fall asleep, it can interrupt night sleep if it falls out. This is especially true for infants as they are unable to place it back in their mouths independently and will then need to signal to parents to come place it back.

Each baby is different and while opinions vary on the topic, some breastfed babies have been known to experience nipple confusion after using a pacifier. If this is something you are concerned with, you may want to wait until you stabilize your breastfeeding before you introduce a pacifier.

Though rare, pacifiers have been linked to repeated incidences of ear infections. Check with your pediatrician if your baby is experiencing recurrent ear infections, you may need to drop the pacifier before you intended to.

Most children will have dropped the pacifier by the time they are 4 years old. Prolonged pacifier use can have dental implications such as teeth misalignment.



When should I introduce a pacifier?

The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends introducing the pacifier when baby is around 3 or 4 weeks old. This gives you time to stabilize breastfeeding and prevent any nipple confusion.



What if my baby hates the pacifier?

Even your best plans to use the pacifier may be foiled by your little one. They may just not like it. If this is something that's important to you, you can persist without necessarily forcing it upon your little one. Remember that babies are born with a thrust reflex which might cause them to push the pacifier away when you put it in their mouth. But they also have a sucking reflex which helps them hold on to the nipple (human or bottle/paci) and squeeze it between the roof of their mouth and tongue. Many researchers believe these two reflexes are linked, but I digress here. What I’m trying to say is that Dr. Harvey Karp (author of the Happiest Baby on the Block) recommends that you gently tug the pacifier once you place it in your baby’s mouth to activate their sucking reflex and stop their thrust reflex.



When to drop the pacifier?

I have found that there are a couple of places in baby’s early life where it is easiest to drop the pacifier. Don’t get me wrong, removing the pacifier from baby’s routine is not easy but these times are relatively easier compared to others. The first one is around 4 months of age, when baby’s circadian rhythms are developed. Baby at this age hasn't formed too many habits that are hard to change and is young enough to quickly adjust to life without the paci. This also helps in preventing the pacifier from becoming a sleep crutch/association. If you keep the pacifier beyond this point, the next easiest place to drop it is when baby is between 2 and 4 years old.



How do I go about dropping the pacifier at 4 months?

 1- Cold Turkey: Drop the pacifier overnight and replace it with another way to soothe your baby to sleep such as rocking or patting. Or better yet, use this time to teach your baby to self settle and become an independent little sleeper!
 
2- Gradual: Slowly and over a few weeks, reduce your babe’s use of the pacifier. You can start by not offering it during the day. Then offer it only at the onset of sleep and then finally dropping it altogether.



What if I decide not to drop it at 4 months, how can I reduce the Jack in the Box effect?

If you don’t drop the pacifier when your babe is around 4 months, there will most likely be a period where you will have to replace baby’s pacifier in the middle of the night if it falls out. In this case, encourage your baby’s independence by teaching them to replace it themselves. Instead of putting it directly in their mouth, place it in their hand and then gently guide them to their mouth. Over time, you can slowly reduce your intervention and babe will be able to just place it themselves. To help them out in the middle of the night, place multiple pacis in the crib. You can also use daytime play to show baby how to grab the pacifier and put it in their mouth.
How do I drop the pacifier later (between 2 and 4 years of age)?

 1- Cold Turkey: Mentally prepare baby that when they reach 3 years old for example (or any other milestone you choose), you will plant the pacifier or the pacifier fairy will come get it or we will donate the pacifier to other younger babies. But be prepared, once the fairy comes, it can’t bring it back. Consistency is your friend here.
 
2- Gradual: You can also do it gradually as described for younger babes. Explain to your child that at such and such age, we can only use the paci when its dark and be consistent about your decision. Then choose another change and stick with it for a few days until your baby no longer needs it.

The Paci Weaning System by Frida is also a good option to explore as it helps wean the pacifier gradually.

As you can see, there are good reasons why opinions are divided regarding the pacifier. But if what you are doing is working for you, then it is the right decision for your family!


By lbenjell 20 May, 2024
In the hustle and bustle of modern life, sleep often takes a back seat to other priorities. Yet, the importance of sleep for mental health cannot be overstated, especially for parents and their children. From infancy through adulthood, sleep plays a crucial role in maintaining emotional stability, cognitive function, and overall well-being. Let’s delve into the intricate relationship between sleep and mental health, exploring its significance for both parents and kids. Understanding Sleep: The Foundation of Mental Health Sleep is not merely a passive state of rest; it's a dynamic process that facilitates vital functions for physical and mental health. During sleep, the brain consolidates memories, processes emotions, and regulates various physiological processes. For children, especially infants and toddlers, sleep is paramount for healthy growth and development. It's during sleep that their brains form crucial neural connections, essential for learning and behavior regulation. Sleep and Parental Mental Health For parents, particularly those with young children, sleep deprivation is often a common occurrence. The demands of caring for a newborn or attending to the needs of a growing child can disrupt sleep patterns, leading to chronic sleep deficits. This chronic sleep deprivation can take a toll on parental mental health in several ways: Increased Stress and Anxiety : Sleep-deprived parents often experience heightened stress levels and anxiety. The constant fatigue and inability to get adequate rest can exacerbate feelings of overwhelm and tension. Impaired Cognitive Function : Lack of sleep impairs cognitive function, making it difficult for parents to concentrate, make decisions, and problem-solve effectively. This can further contribute to feelings of inadequacy and frustration. Mood Disorders : Chronic sleep deprivation is linked to an increased risk of mood disorders such as depression and irritability. Parents may find themselves more prone to mood swings and emotional instability, impacting their ability to nurture a positive environment for their children. Strained Relationships : Sleep deprivation can strain relationships, leading to conflicts and communication breakdowns between partners. This can create additional stressors, further exacerbating mental health challenges. Sleep and Child Mental Health Just as sleep is crucial for parental well-being, it's equally essential for children's mental health and development. Adequate sleep is associated with numerous benefits for children, including: Emotional Regulation : Sufficient sleep plays a vital role in emotional regulation, helping children manage their feelings and behaviors effectively. Children who get enough sleep are often more resilient to stress and less prone to mood disturbances. Cognitive Development : Sleep is essential for cognitive development in children, as it supports learning, memory consolidation, and problem-solving skills. A well-rested child is better equipped to succeed academically and socially. Behavioral Health : Sleep disturbances in children are closely linked to behavioral problems such as hyperactivity, impulsivity, and aggression. Establishing healthy sleep habits early on can significantly reduce the risk of such issues. Reduced Risk of Mental Health Disorders : Research suggests that inadequate sleep during childhood is associated with an increased risk of mental health disorders later in life, including anxiety, depression, and ADHD. Strategies for Promoting Healthy Sleep Given the critical role of sleep in mental health for both parents and children, it's essential to prioritize sleep hygiene and establish healthy sleep habits. Here are some strategies to promote better sleep: Consistent Bedtime Routine: Establish a consistent bedtime routine for both parents and children. A calming bedtime routine signals to the body that it's time to wind down and prepare for sleep. Create a Sleep-Conducive Environment: Ensure that the bedroom environment is conducive to sleep . This includes keeping the room dark, quiet, and at a comfortable temperature. Limit Screen Time: Minimize screen time, especially before bedtime, as exposure to screens can interfere with melatonin production and disrupt sleep patterns. Encourage Physical Activity: Regular physical activity during the day can promote better sleep at night. Encourage children to engage in active play and ensure that parents incorporate exercise into their daily routine as well. Healthy Sleep Associations: Help children develop healthy sleep associations by associating bedtime with soothing activities such as reading or gentle music. Practice Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Teach children and parents relaxation techniques such as deep breathing exercises or guided imagery to promote relaxation and stress relief before bedtime. Seek Professional Help When Needed: If sleep problems persist despite implementing these strategies, seek guidance from a healthcare professional or sleep specialist. You can always schedule a discovery call with me to discuss whether working with me will help your little one get a better night sleep. For parents and children alike, prioritizing sleep is essential for maintaining emotional well-being, cognitive function, and overall health. By recognizing the importance of sleep and implementing strategies to promote healthy sleep habits, parents can nurture a positive sleep environment for themselves and their children, laying the foundation for a lifetime of mental wellness.
By lbenjell 24 Apr, 2024
Sleep is the cornerstone of our well-being, especially for children whose growing bodies and minds depend on it for optimal development. As parents, we often hear about the significance of sleep, yet understanding the specific needs of our children at different stages of their lives can be the key to ensuring they thrive. In this comprehensive guide, we'll delve into the importance of sleep for children and explore the recommended amount of sleep they need from birth into their teenage years. Birth to 12 Months: During the first year of life, sleep is not just vital; it's foundational. Infants spend a significant portion of their time sleeping, with newborns needing around 14-17 hours of sleep per day. As they grow, the total sleep hours gradually decrease, but the importance remains unchanged. Sleep is crucial for their physical growth, cognitive development, and emotional well-being. Establishing healthy sleep habits early on can lay the groundwork for a lifetime of restful sleep. 1 to 3 Years Old: Toddlers are bundles of energy, constantly exploring the world around them. Despite their boundless enthusiasm, they still require ample sleep to support their rapid development. Children aged 1 to 3 years typically need about 12-14 hours of sleep per day, including naps. Consistent bedtime routines and a conducive sleep environment can help toddlers settle into a restful night's sleep, setting the stage for their busy days ahead. 4 to 6 Years Old: As children transition into preschoolers and embark on new adventures, their sleep needs evolve yet again. Preschool-aged children typically require 10-12 hours of sleep per night. Quality sleep at this stage is essential for consolidating learning, enhancing memory, and regulating emotions. Encouraging a consistent sleep schedule and minimizing screen time before bedtime can promote healthier sleep habits in young children. 7 to 12 Years Old: As children enter the school-age years, the demands of academics, extracurricular activities, and social interactions can sometimes encroach on their sleep. However, prioritizing sleep remains crucial for their overall well-being. School-aged children generally need 9-11 hours of sleep each night. Adequate sleep supports cognitive function, academic performance, and physical health. By fostering a sleep-friendly environment and promoting a regular bedtime routine, parents can help their children meet their sleep needs even amidst busy schedules. Teenage Years: The teenage years mark a period of significant change, both physically and emotionally. Amidst academic pressures, social activities, and technological distractions, teenagers often find themselves grappling with sleep deprivation. Yet, prioritizing sleep during adolescence is more critical than ever. Teenagers typically require 8-10 hours of sleep per night, yet many fall short of this recommendation. Sleep plays a vital role in adolescent development, impacting mood regulation, cognitive function, and physical health. Establishing healthy sleep habits, such as limiting caffeine intake and creating a sleep-conducive environment, can empower teenagers to prioritize rest and reap the benefits of adequate sleep. Sleep is not a luxury; it's a necessity, especially for children whose growing bodies and minds depend on it for optimal development. From birth through the teenage years, the importance of sleep remains constant, evolving alongside the child's changing needs. By understanding the recommended amount of sleep for each stage of childhood and implementing strategies to support healthy sleep habits, parents can empower their children to thrive and reach their full potential. If you find that your children are falling short of the recommended hours of sleep or struggling with sleep-related challenges, don't hesitate to take action. A personalized approach to addressing sleep issues can make a world of difference for your family. I invite you to book a discovery call with me at One2Sleep Consulting. Together, we can explore your family's unique sleep needs and develop a tailored plan to promote restful sleep and overall well-being for your children. Let's embark on this journey toward better sleep together. Your family's good night's sleep starts here.
By lbenjell 06 Jun, 2023
You are sitting peacefully watching a movie when you hear your little one scream. It’s the middle of the night and you are convinced they are having a nightmare. But when you go check, your baby is unconsolable. It is as if they are not recognizing your presence. So was it a night mare or something else? In most cases, when sleep is disturbed, our babes are most likely having a nightmare. But sometimes, it turns out to be a night terror instead. So what’s the difference between the two and how can we help our little ones get through each one. What is a nightmare? A nightmare is a bad dream that can cause the person experiencing it fright or distress. Children generally start having nightmares between the ages of 2 and 3 years but some start as early as 2 years old. Nightmares generally happen in the REM stages of sleep or in other words in the later part of the night. A child having a nightmare can wake up and remember the content of the dream and even feel distressed as a result. What triggers a nightmare? Nightmares can be triggered by a number of things. It can be something that they are worried about, something they heard a story about or even something they watched on TV. That is why I always ask parents to do a quick audit of who their little one is spending time with and what they are watching. Something that an older cousin or sibling said in passing can really stay with the little ones. How can I help my child after a nightmare? Immediately after the episode (or in the middle of the night) soothe and comfort your baby and help them go back to sleep — however that may look like for your family. Once the initial shock/fear has passed, spend time the next day talking to your little one about the dream. Was it scary? how did it make them feel? Make sure you validate those feelings as they are very real to them but also put them in context: dreams are works of our imaginary and we can retell the narrative differently. Is there a way to turn the monster into something funny? Can the bad story in the dream have a happy ending? Help them focus on their ability to imagine good things instead of dwelling on the scary aspect of the dream. What is a night terror? Similar to a nightmare, a Night terror is a parasomnia that can disturb our kiddo’s sleep. This one happens in the deep NREM portion of sleep which means earlier in the night. A child experiencing a night terror may sleep walk or scream but may not recognize your efforts to soothe them or calm them down. The next day, your little one will have absolutely no recollection of the episode. What triggers night terrors? Night terrors can be hereditary so if someone in your family has experience with them, it might explain why your little one is having them. But night terrors can also be caused by overtiredness so offering more sleep can help reduce their frequency. How can I help my child through or after a night terror? In these cases, it is best to accompany your baby in their terror and keep them safe, without waking them. The episode will ride out and they will be out of it in a few minutes. Chatting about it the next day is probably not going to help as this is not something that they will be able to recall. Has your child experienced night terrors? I would love to hear more.
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