For many sleep issues that parents come to me with, there seems to be a common solution:
An early bedtime.
While an early bedtime isn’t the answer to everything (many factors impact sleep and taking a deeper look into what’s going on can be very telling), this simple change in schedule can fix quite a bit.
I know that for many cultures around the world, an early bedtime isn’t something that’s easily accepted, as it’s common for children to go to bed later in the evening. In fact, I’ve worked with families who came to me with an 11 p.m. or 1 a.m. bedtime for their child.
So I understand that as you read this, you may pushback on this idea.
However, I encourage you to keep an open mind and a willingness to try something new. Who knows…an earlier bedtime for your child may just be the answer you need.
Here are five things that an early bedtime can fix!
Early bedtimes can fix night wakes
If your little one is waking multiple times throughout the night (and it’s not just
because they are hungry), it could be because they are overly tired.
I know reading that statement may not compute – shouldn’t overly tired children just sleep straight through the night?!
In an ideal world, yes! But that’s not how our bodies work. When children are tired – maybe they have been skipping their naps, taking short naps, taking a long time to fall asleep at night, staying up late – cortisol, a stress hormone, can interfere with their melatonin production, causing multiple night wakes.
I also want to note that another common cause of multiple night wakes is your child looking for a sleep association. For instance, if your child is used to being rocked or nursed to sleep, when they move through their sleep cycles, they’ll wake up and look for that association in order to fall back to sleep.
If that’s the position you find yourself in, together we can make a plan of action to help your little one learn to fall asleep on their own, so that they can put themselves back to sleep if they wake overnight.
But if your child is falling asleep independently and they’re still waking multiple times a night, an earlier bedtime may be the fix!
Early bedtimes can fix early morning wakes
If your child is waking you up early each morning ready to start their day, taking a look at what time they go to bed is the first step.
Before we go on, let’s define what an early morning wake is.
- Your child wakes up before 6 a.m. and won’t go back to sleep
- Your child is getting less than 11-12 hours of overnight sleep
If both of these points apply to your child, then you’ve likely found yourself in an
early morning wake
situation.
Children need to sleep a certain amount of hours each night, and if they’re waking up early, it’s likely because their circadian rhythm is “set” to that wake time.
By putting them to bed earlier, we’re allowing them to clock more hours each night, giving them the rest they need.
I know many parents worry that if they put their child to bed early, then they’ll just wake up early. But surprisingly, that’s not always the case. In fact, many parents find that when they put their child to sleep earlier, they end up sleeping longer, or at the very least, getting the appropriate amount of sleep for their age.
Early bedtimes can fix bedtime pushbacks
If bedtime in your house involves…
Your child having a hard time falling asleep each night
Crying, protesting, or asking for a million things before settling into bed
…then you may want to consider an earlier bedtime.
Bedtime pushbacks may look differently based on the age of your child, but if bedtime brings dread to everyone in your house because it takes such a long time, I encourage you to evaluate the bed time.
Pushback or even just trouble falling asleep at bedtime comes back to your child’s circadian rhythm. When your child stays awake longer than their internal clock, they will get a second wind of energy that pushes them to stay awake – even though their bodies may be ready to sleep.
Because of this extra energy, your child’s body thinks it needs to stay awake, and even though it may be late, their bodies just won’t be able to do what it needs to do to fall asleep.
But when you get ahead of this second wind of energy, you can get your little one to bed at just the right time.
Early bedtimes can fix rowdy periods leading up to bedtime
The other thing that second wind of energy can bring is tantrums.
Or super excited children, whose last thought is bedtime.
If the moment you announce it’s time to get ready for bed your child begins to run around, laugh, jump on furniture, or throw the biggest tantrum you’ve seen, it’s not because they need to “get that energy out.”
This is a common sign that we’ve missed their ideal bedtime (according to their circadian rhythm) and may want to pull bedtime a little earlier.
Of course, if you experience tantrums and running around regardless of the bed time, you may want to evaluate your
bedtime routines
to really ensure they are setting your child up for a great night’s rest.
Early bedtimes can fix parent-to-parent quality time
As much as you love your child, having time to yourself or to spend with a significant other is important.
But when your child goes to bed at 11 p.m. each night, you likely will find that you aren’t left with much time for bonding.
Not only will an earlier bedtime allow you to sit with your partner and watch a movie or play a game, but it also opens the door for fun date nights. While you’re away, you won’t have to worry about whether the babysitter is handling things okay – you’ll know your children are tucked away in bed safely, and you can sit back and enjoy your evening out.
I know that an earlier bedtime won’t work for every family.
But if you have the option to move your child’s bedtime earlier, I highly recommend you try it and see what happens. Give it a week and then report back to me! You can find me over on
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